Tuesday, October 29, 2013
Now, that Glen and I are in our fifties we have made a lot of decisions. For me, I was tired of watching Glen work so hard. He worked physically hard as a union carpenter. Financially a very tough way of living. Building in this country has had it's highs and lows. So, during the lows Glen would work on our houses. Once, the children were born we had two houses for him to spend endless hours not only renovating but, making larger. Always having the big picture in mind.
Circumstances and finances started to change when our house values became better. But, on our income it became harder and harder to afford our property taxes. It was time to sell. When, we sell our first home we invested in finishing our home we lived in. We changed the liner in the pool. The utility bills were huge and way beyond our means. When my dad died, we still weren't completely finished with the house. But, we had family come up from Texas and a week to get ready. So, Glen put wallpaper on the walls and we were proud to show our house as finished for the first time. We had savings and investments and the stock market tanked along with what we had put aside for the children for their education.
So, long story short we ended up selling that beautiful home that you could call our dream house. Glen had changed every wall. Built a second floor with a master bedroom and bath and a room of their own for Ian and Kaylyn. Built me a kitchen that I designed. Put in a bathroom where you would walk in the back from the pool. We had many celebrations in that back yard. Prom pictures were taken by our fireplace and we felt proud to have this be our home while the children were in their teenage years.
Senior year the department store I worked at closed. But, I was able to see every activity my children were in. We had the time to throw the cast party for a play Kaylyn starred in. We went to every Jazz band concert and marching band activity Ian was in. But, as the decision came for college they both decided on the same. University of the Arts.....googled it.....oh my god.....$30,000 a year......times 2 !!!!!!!
So, the real estate market is bad.......really bad!!!!! I get a full time job in Princeton for a year. Glen wants to retire and he should there is no building going on. But, their education is going to cost $240.000!!!!!! Yes, scholarships and grants helped. But, here we are and they did have to take out student loans that become due this month.
So, when Sandy hit we are in our new home.....five miles from the beach. No big trees, utilities are all underground. Glen is still a fireman, but he stays home for the first time. Ian is a fireman and sleeps at the firehouse for three nights. We have a store in Convention Hall on the boardwalk in Asbury Park. We food shop and watch the storm unfold on tv and on the computer. The wind and rain starts early and there is a constant worry. When I am watching tv I see Anderson Cooper on the boardwalk and what I see is devastating and realize it was filmed earlier.......the tv goes off and total darkness sets in. I still have the battery on the computer and then my son starts posting pictures and I ask him to stop I can't take it. I see the medallion in the Casino building in Asbury Park is blown in......I see trees falling around us. I see pictures of trees on houses. I close the computer and vow not to open it again. I hear the wind howling for hours......candles our blown out and we go to bed and end up sleeping until daylight.
Sunday, October 13, 2013
So, these are a couple of signs in my year of a miracle....the others include:
Kaylyn and Ian graduating from college
Kaylyn landing an internship teaching kindergarten in China and being there for 9 weeks.
Ian playing with 6 different bands currently. I included the picture video above because in November he leaves with the Billy Walton band to play in Germany and England
I got a job as Department Manager for Boscov's
Glen is still working driving the bus for Colt's Neck school system
My mom was very sick and on a respirator, but has healed and looks better then ever
As we move into November I am truely grateful for my blessings.
Saturday, October 12, 2013
So last year I had an amazing birthday with my family in New York city.....we went to see the Warhol show at the Met, had macarons from Lauderee, went to this gallery full of rock celebrity photographs, stuffed our faces in Little Italy and topped it off for a walk through Greenwich village to look through galleries and record stores. The best!!!!! This year I am spending the weekend watching my son play the trombone with the Billy Walton Band. This is a dream being played out like no other. I don't know how Billy Walton is doing it, but it is starting to play with my head. The first time I saw them play was down at Golden Nugget in Atlantic City. Billy has a very cool style of playing the guitar full of blues and soul. He also does not have a set list. So, it is sort of a mystery night of sorts to see what he will play. Well, the first time he started playing a Chicago song which includes the horns, of course. But, as soon as the horns would have a part he would stop. Wow!!!! What a tease. So, each time I see them now I stop pulling out my camera, because in the beginning I thought I would catch a video that would mean so much. As, my husband and Ian are such big Chicago fans. The last few times he does get to the horn part and actually starts a verse and then ends it real quick. I am starting to think the only thing I am wishing for is a full version of this song and hope I catch it on video........let's say if prayers are answered, weather cooperates, phone battery charged......I could maybe show you a video of the best birthday ever!!!!!